On Empathy and Being an Empath

On Being An Empath

By Heidi Jane | Spirituality

Sep 18

Average Reading Time: 5 min 18 sec

If you often feel over-sensitive, highly emotional, and exceptionally intuitive, then you may just be an Empath.

For many of us living with heightened sensitivities, emotional acuity, and deep intuition, we struggle to find the relevance, meaning, and acknowledgment we so deeply yearn for. Instead we are often met with comments such as “You’re so sensitive!” or “Just toughen up!” or “Stop crying!” For those of us born as a Highly Sensitive Person, that’s far easier said than done.

The consequences of other people’s opinions often mean that we internalize or feel shame, or we try to hide our baffling emotions and the intense sensations we experience.

Thankfully, there is a classification for people like us, determined by a psychologist, Dr. Elaine Aron, in 1996. Initially scientists believed that heightened sensitivity, shown in a sub-group of the population categorized as ‘Highly Sensitive People’, was behavioral, due mainly to personality types. Further research discovered that the HSP sub-group was genetically different.

Research established that this was not an anomaly, as it appeared in 20% of the overall population, but rather a type of evolutionary advantage. Highly Sensitive People (HSP) can see what others miss, feel what others don’t, and respond before others know to. HSP have increased levels of neurological activity, along with hypersensitive and hyper-vigilant nervous systems.

The upshot of this increased sensitivity is displayed through their thoughts, feelings, motivations, and behavior. That’s why HSP can't "toughen up"; we’re simply not born that way! When I discovered this information for myself, I found an immense sense of relief; typically, I knew there was something very different about me. I didn’t have the support or understanding from my family, which is quite common.

As a consequence, I experienced confusion with how I felt and thought, with what I could easily sense from people, places, and objects -- things that no one else seemed to notice. My natural coping mechanism was to cry, and I cried a lot, every single day, growing up. This was the only way I knew how to regulate the excess of information and feelings I absorbed, like a sponge, from the outside world.

I also understood that as hypersensitive as I was to my environment, equally I perceived the world from a hyper-perspective. I began to understand that this was because I was not only a HSP; I was an Empath. In my estimation, within the 20% sub-population who identify as HSP, there are about 5% of that group who would also classify as an Empath.

There is no scientific research to back this up yet, but I have hypothesized this number after working with more than 10,000 clients over 15 years, and recognizing other Empaths, including living as one. The term Empath is derived from the word empathy, and it seems to be right on trend at the moment, often used without a clear understanding of what it actually means, spreading misinformation.

Empaths are literally able to experience what others experience, and I mean literally. Like emotional and physical pain and suffering, joy and fear, trauma and happiness. This makes it pretty hard to navigate the world, especially if we are perplexed by what feelings belong to us and what belong to others. It can be confusing and debilitating, and most Empaths I know are seeking answers. Unfortunately, if the advice, however well-meaning, isn’t coming from another Empath, it can do more damage than good.

Relationships are at the top of the ‘Challenging’ list for Empaths. Empaths connect to the heart and soul of another human being and can get caught in the “But he/she has so much potential” trap. We have the ability to see who people really are at their essence, at their core, and we use this to excuse, tolerate, or dismiss poor and abusive behavior.

We have a built-in drive to help others, and we feel like we are letting a loved one down if we reject their behavior. We can’t stand the thought of another person suffering, so we do the suffering for them. Empaths are ‘human chameleons’, changing our appearance, mannerisms, language, gait, and personality, often unconsciously, to fit in, so it’s important that we choose carefully whom we spend our time with!

Empaths are, as a consequence, excellent actors, singers, performers, politicians, media personalities, and entrepreneurs. We enjoy and thrive from sharing our message and shaking up the status quo, whereas a HSP could think of nothing worse. Empaths are also drawn to work in positions of advocacy for people, animals and the environment.

We feel like we are here to do something BIG, to change the world, and we are driven to succeed, to make connections, to educate, even though we suffer with our sensitivities and struggle to really fit in. Empaths have the gorgeous ability to embrace people, regardless of color, religion, or race, and view the world through the lens of compassion, vision, and a deep sense of justice.

They are strongly connected to their own spirituality, and if they accept their sensitivity as a super power, they can literally change the world. If you would like to join My Empath Tribe, a community for like-spirited sensitives, to receive ongoing support, live coaching, courses, resources, and news, then please follow this link.

See you in there!

Heidi Jane

By Heidi Jane, Guest Blogger for the BodyMind Institute
Institute Website:  International Institute of Advanced Intuition
Blog Website:  Heidi-Jane.com

About the Author

Heidi Jane, a Sydney-based, International Empath Wellness Expert, is the #1 Best Selling Author of "Are You An Evolutionary Advantage?" Heidi is passionate about supporting Empaths and Highly Sensitive People, helping them to successfully navigate their lives. She offers on-line courses such as The Empath Self-Mastery Program, My Body is Perfect--Body Acceptance for HSP, and the Empath Wellness Training. Heidi is Founder and Principal of The Institute of Advanced Intuition. Visit The International Institute of Advanced Intuition or find Heidi at www.heidi-jane.com.


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